One of the many reasons family is valued in our culture is that family can give people identity and purpose. Parents work hard and provide for their children. Children learn, grow, and help as they are able. Each person contributes. Each person receives. Throughout the process, happiness, connection, and legacy are grown.
But family life is never perfectly balanced. The family is a system, so each person affects other people in the family. Sometimes, the effect is beneficial. Sometimes it is not. When the family is off-kilter, it is often helpful to have outside help to find equilibrium.
Family Life Psychology offers family therapy because we understand that being a family is not always easy. Every family faces challenges, and every family needs help. Family therapy through Family Life Psychology may be the help your family needs to regain its balance.
Whenever you put two people with distinct personalities and ideas into the same room, at some point opposing thoughts are inevitable. If presented in a non-threatening manner, these different viewpoints can actually help us to learn about each other and grow as individuals. This is the natural progression of any relationship. The problem generally arises when we get caught in our egos. From this point on, rational thinking goes out the window and conflicts become winner-takes-all battles in which everybody loses.
No matter the issue, the underlying reason for most disagreements is the fear of losing control of someone or something. As such, the issue at hand is never really what we are arguing about. Teenagers regularly use everyday situations as potential battlefields to assert their newfound independence. As parents, we watch in horror wondering where are cute five-year-old went, panicking at the mere thought of losing control over them. They, despite their bravado demeanors, are also afraid of losing control. The result? Battle lines are quickly drawn and persistent conflicts result.
As of May 2005, the divorce rate for marriages to survive 30 years was 38 percent according to the United States Census Bureau. Canada has nearly the same rate at 37.6. Not surprisingly, unresolved family conflict is the leading cause of separation and divorce in today’s win-or-lose society. Unfortunately, as we ultimately learn after the fact, there are no winners because somewhere down the line someone ultimately suffers the repercussions.
Family counselling can help you navigate the unique challenges that being a blended family presents.
If you need a therapist to help you, Our professional and licensed counselors, are able to help you right where you are over the phone, via email, or webcam/messenger.